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Get Out of Your Own Way to Find Success + FREE Worksheet by Ariana Dagan

We’ve all been there, standing in the way of our own dreams and ambitions and happiness and success. Maybe its an email you forgot to respond to, a phone call you missed, an offer of help you turned down. Maybe it was your pride, your forgetfulness, your anxiety or your obliviousness that caused you to miss an opportunity that was knocking on your door. Maybe you’ve done vision boards, two-cup methods, affirmations, morning journal pages and post it notes on your mirror to no avail.

So how do you get out of your own way, and achieve your dreams? It’s so easy its almost embarrassing. But it takes commitment, so lets break it down, but first click the graphic below to download your free printable worksheet so you can easily follow along!

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6 Ways to Achieve your Dreams (without you getting in the way) + FREE Worksheet by Ariana Dagan

1 | Define Success

Be as specific as you can here. Maybe your idea of success is a 9-5 job, or a family, or completing your bucket list. Maybe its having enough money to take a vacation once-in-a-while or buy the on-brand version of your favorite food. Maybe its being a millionaire or retiring at 30. Whatever your idea of success is, define it. Tell me (yourself) all about it. Get down to the nitty gritty details.

Choose only one item of success at a time. Sure you may want a 9-5 and a family and to complete your bucket list. But make those three different ideas of success. Do these steps for each of those items separately. This will allow you to get far more specific for each other individually and really break down WHAT it means to be successful.

Consider this step to be free writing. Just write what comes to mind about the successful item. Get more and more specific as you write. But when you hit the end of the page, stop. I don’t care if you have more to say, just stop. (And likewise, don’t stop until you hit the end of the page)! Now move onto step 2 immediately!

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2 | Summarize Success

Immediately following step 1, summarize everything you just wrote into 3-5 bullet points. Each bullet point should be a quick statement, NOT a complete sentence, and certainly not multiple sentences. Be quick and dirty. If there was something you wish you had a chance to write on the previous page, do it now in a bullet point statement. Make this list no less than 3, and no more than 5 statements long! Now move onto step 3.

3 | Create Excuses

Yup. Do it, look at the bullet points you’ve written and write down every excuse you can think of that will keep you from achieving this success. Could you not answer the phone call? Put that email in your ‘read later’ file? When someone offers to help you, would you shrug it off or say “maybe”? Do you have a mama brain and would forget your head if it wasn’t attached? Write it down, write each and every single one down. It might be 5 things, it might be 50 (although if you truly find 50 ways of keeping yourself back from one single idea of success, I highly recommend you should try a therapist to work through some of them!). Once you have your list and feel comfortable that you have discovered every avenue that you will (consciously or subconsciously) block yourself from success, move onto step 4.

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4 | Remove OBSTACLES

You know the obstacles that stand in the way of your success. You have clearly described each and every way you block yourself. Now remove them. Go back through each item and brainstorm at least one way you can beat this to the punch and remove the obstacle. Some may require you to be creative, while others may be shockingly simple. Here are a few common excuses and some possible ways to remove the obstacle:

  • Forget to return phone calls? Try building phone time into your schedule. Choose a day and an hour to sit down, look through your call list to remind yourself, look through your messages to make sure you have the list, and return each and every call.
  • Lose emails? Create a system that won’t let you forget. Maybe its color coding, or star systems. Try folders and organizing your emails. Try scheduling time to read and respond to emails on a daily basis. It may require some testing and trial and error, but you can and WILL find a system that works for you!
  • Someone offer to help? Say yes! Say yes please and offer a bottle of wine to say thank you. A gift forces you to stay in contact, and they will be more likely to keep you in mind next time an opportunity comes up as well. Saying yes before you forget to, or before pride gets in the way commits you to the situation.

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5 | Commit to yourself

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You’ve done the hard work, you have an excellent understanding of what success means to you and an even better understanding of how you tend to ruin opportunities that would bring that success. Now you are better prepared when these situations come up how to handle them and ensure the opportunity can come to you and success will reach you! So what is the last step? Commit to yourself. Admit that you are worthy of success. Worthy of the opportunities trying to reach you. Commit to yourself that you are worth all of this hard work and you won’t keep hindering yourself.

Because no matter what your dream is, what your idea of success is, and where you currently are on the journey to achieving that dream, you are worth it. You are important, and unique, and valuable. And its OK to accept the opportunities that your hard work brings you, your acquaintances provide for you, and the universe pushes on you. It’s even OK that after you achieve said dream, it turns out it wasn’t the right one. It’s OK to keep trying, and I hope no matter what you do keep trying. Because you are worth it. So make this commitment to yourself, and get out there and make your dreams come true!

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  1. thank you for useful sheets .

  2. Hey lovely thanks for all of your motivation #goaldigger posts!

  3. Thank you for the amazing tips!

  4. I love your posts lately! They are really inspiring me to get out there and get things done!

  5. This is amazing! I pinned this post for later because I need these tips!

  6. This is very helpful. Great tips. Thanks!

  7. I love this! It’s so necessary to use resources like this to make concrete plans and align your life with your dreams!

  8. I think this is such a great breakdown for a success plan. So often, we go into things completely blind (thinking we don’t actually need a plan). But, what I can see from your example is that planning ahead is crucial because it can help you foresee problems that you may face and create a solution or some ideas ahead of time.

  9. Great points about lists! Thank you for sharing the printables!

  10. These are really great tips! I’m totally trying to focus on this whole blogging thing without starting other projects because I really want to succeed at this!

  11. Definitely adding this to my to-do list today!! I’ve been slacking on some goals of mine lately – maybe this can snap me back into accomplishing them! Thank you for this!

  12. Such great tips and just in time for the New Year!

  13. These printables look AWESOME! Thanks for sharing! I LOVE personal development stuff, and these are beautiful too!

  14. Asking for help is something I struggle with and definitely get in my own way with. Thanks for the great advice!

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  16. I love the idea of thinking of all the excuses, and then finding ways to remove those obstacles! It is such a smart way to start moving toward a goal.

  17. I love all the time and effort you put into making this truly helpful!

  18. I may not be a mama bear but this has been very helpful!

    Terry Mae |

  19. Great post! I think defining success is major because it’s so different for every person. How do you obtain a goal when it’s not defined? Great advice!
    – Morgan

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  21. Absolutely love this worksheet and the colors. ❤️

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  23. I love the idea of listing out excuses right now in order to figure out how to overcome them. Great ideas and tips!

  24. I love planning, and have all my ideas in just one place. It is an amazing detail from you.

  25. I love this thanks for sharing!

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  27. Love planning out every little detail- it helps so much when I’m overwhelmed with my two do list and makes me feel like it’s attainable!

  28. So much in this post that speaks to me. I love identifying the obstacles. I need to do this tomorrow as I have a few too many deadlines looming!

  29. This is such an important post! I literally used to visualize myself standing in front of me and blocking my own way… crazy visual, but it was also an accurate one!

  30. Love the worksheet, so practical!

  31. This is such a great post! I certainly need help with removing obstacles in my life – i’m terrible at returning texts and phone calls too. I need to schedule my time better. Thanks for this!

  32. These are great tips! I will definitely be using some of these! Thanks for sharing!

  33. I love this! Such practical advice. I love that you included suggestions for removing the obstacles. I seem to always forget to return phone calls. I think to schedule a block of time daily to make the phone calls would be so helpful!

  34. I definitely needed this post. I’m saving it for later because I get so overwhelmed with LIFE I forget about my goals and my check lists!!

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  36. Girrrrrl, this is fantastic advice! I especially need to be better about removing obstacles from my own path. It’s such an obvious thing to say, but so many of us get tripped up by the same things over and over again! LOVE IT!

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  38. I keep telling myself that I’ll get to working on my dream later, that it can wait. Thank you for the inspiration to finally get started on it.

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  40. I love all of these ideas! I am always trying to achieve success in so many areas that I’m having a hard time reaching real success. Thanks for sharing your wisdom!

  41. YAAAS. I love all of theses so MUCH!

  42. So much YES to this post! Very well written! We all need to get out of our own way sometimes!

  43. Great info! I’ve never thought of thinking of excuses first and removing the obstacles. I also love the design of your site. Everything is fun and easy to read!

  44. Identifying your obstacles is important in moving forward. You can’t know everything but you can plan and prepare.

  45. Going out of your way for your big dream is a wonderful idea. Reaching your dream requires hard work and dedication.

  46. These are really great tips! I have fallen into some of these traps so I am definitely going to use these!

  47. This is great advice! I think many of us have grand dreams and ideas, but we fail to do the work for ourselves that we spend our working lives doing for everyone else. Thank you for sharing!

    1. Define your success! Yes, that’s what I need to do. So many ideas and no true definition.

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